This new reality and your experience of it would have been unimaginable to you before it happened. If two years ago I magically appeared before you and told you everything you thought was evil, would be reported as good; and everything good, all the news sources would be saying was evil. So evil you could not even discuss it in public or on Facebook or Twitter.
I would tell you that you might try to object to others being treated wrongly and in return, you’d be thrown off the social platform - ostracized by society! We would have a president who made threatening-sounding statements to the American people. You need to this or this or pay the consequences.
You’d be like, whaaaatttt?
Yet here we are. We had such hope last year that it was all going to work out somehow. Even the crazy things that were going on around the election. Suddenly early in the evening on election night, there were states that just said, “Well, that’s it for tonight. We are shutting down and we’ll come back and finish counting tomorrow.” I don’t know about you, but I was like, “Wait a minute . . . . you just stopping? At 10:30 p.m.?” Never in all my years did states just stop counting votes!
Then we went through all that strangeness, and it happened. January 20th. We watched Joe Biden being “sworn in” in a ceremony that made no sense. Then President Trump and the First Lady walked out of the White House and left. We were lost. We were confused. We kept waiting for something to happen.
There were vague promises. Some promises were specific. Specific dates came and went. Still, we all waited. We were told, things are happening - you just don’t see it. It’s all going to be corrected. Yet nothing seemed to be changing.
Welcome to downward spiral of self-pity. Oh yes, you are totally entitled to it! Right?
Guess what. NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE US.
Not the President. Not the Patriots. Not our friends. Not our family.
There comes a time when you realize you have been in the process of grief that follows an exquisite loss in your life. That’s when you also know it is time to stand up and start putting one foot in front of the other. You must save yourself. SAVE YOURSELF. Do you hear me?
Now you’re thinking, wait. Joann, you’re supposed to be the optimist! The inspiration!
I am. And I am giving you the BEST NEWS EVER.
You get to allow those emotions – let them wash over you, one after another. Any kind of initial loss is followed by a crazy cascade of emotions, hitting and changing, minute by minute. Breathe, lean into them. Notice each emotion and name it.
NO, we are not playing Enya in the background. It’s not Kumbaya time! But it is high time you recognize all the adrenaline and drama you’ve been pumping through your body all these months. I’m serious as a heart attack. This is terrible for your system.
We are humans. We need to let ourselves acknowledge all the trauma before we can do anything to move beyond the drama. It is not going to help to be blaming people and things outside of you for what you are going through. The emotion of it is what you have been choosing. Your reaction to this entire situation is your choice.
The bills that go late sitting on the end table.
The lawn that needs mowing.
The extra 20 pounds you’ve gained in the months during shutdown.
The leaking water heater.
The mortgage.
The kids.
The business you’ve let slide.
No one is coming to save you. You must save yourself.
You are responsible for your health, your money, your happiness, your future.
How do you take control of all this? By learning to recognize the difference between the facts of your life and the thoughts you are thinking about those facts. Here’s the deal - facts are just facts. They are neutral. No adjectives. No emotion. No drama. Like that old tv show, “Dragnet.” Joe Friday always would say, “Just the facts, mam.”
Fact: The election outcome was announced for Joe Biden.
Everything else - EVERYTHING ELSE has been your thoughts about it. You can write all that down. I’m not saying your thoughts are right or wrong. They are your thoughts - no judgement. We all had lots of thoughts. Some people had thoughts like, “Thank God - I don’t have to listen to the orange man anymore.” Right? I had screaming thoughts, like “This is not right! They cheated!” “My vote has been taken from me!” and alllll the stuff that followed.
But I can look at the notebook I filled with all the thoughts I chose to run through my brain about that one fact “The election outcome was announced for Joe Biden” and see how all those thoughts drove my emotional state. Most of the time those thoughts were not serving me. Heck, probably they even aged me.
What if, at that time last year you and I had these thoughts immediately: “This is exactly what needs to happen.” “This is going to be perfect.” “I can’t wait to see how THIS all plays out - it is going to be the coolest ever.”
Whoa - that would have been a completely different set of emotions, right? We may have even been toasting each other that night. Isn’t it crazy to think about? We do this daily - hourly - even minute by minute. We choose how we think about the neutral facts of our life.
Now that you are getting a glimmer of the choices you can make about how you are thinking and feeling, just know this: There is a legacy living inside of you, waiting for you to take action. Your brain is scared. Your brain says, “don’t take chances.” Your brain says, “who do you think you are?” Your brain says, “Who will THEY think you are?”
Your brain’s job to keep you safe – sometimes to a fault. It jumps to the negative on everything; just trying to make sure it keeps you alive and safe. But you don’t feel safe anymore – not ever. You can’t even get to sleep at night.
Here’s the thing: We are not a broken people. We ARE what’s going to turn the tide. It’s time to focus on what we can do locally in our own state to BACK our military and the team that is handling the continuity of our government through this time. The sooner we do, the quicker the audits will progress and the sooner we get our country back. You find out how you can get involved in pushing an audit forward and helping canvas. If you have kids, have you ever gone to a school board meeting?
If you have not heard about devolution for continuity of government, I am placing a link at the end of this article you should go check out. Patel Patriot here on substack has written a brilliant series of articles on devolution. He provides complete documentation to demonstrate that this is the process that was set in motion before President Trump left the White House. I encourage you to go read it and follow the links to video readings and interviews.
More than anything, I want you to internalize and know this: You become what you believe you are. When you can believe in yourself, you become unstoppable. We can all begin to believe in US as “We The People.” We can believe that together we are unstoppable, because this is TRUE.
Then each of us can claim our lives – take back our futures. It’s OURS. Furthermore, each of us gets to design that future and grow into it. It’s time. No one is coming to save us. But we CAN save ourselves.
I can help. Learning self-coaching guides you, keep you believing in yourself, helps you see that you are powerful and capable. Self-coaching can help you own your life and become who you were always meant to be.
Stop waiting to be saved. Start saving yourself. Then together, we can all save our nation.
Go learn about devolution - it will be life changing to learn what has been happening in our country! Click below to jump to Patel Patriot’s Substack.