WHY IT IS SO HARD FOR OTHERS TO SEE AND ACCEPT ANOTHER VIEW
How to go about sharing inconvenient truths
We have reached a precipice. Things many have long known about are actually beginning to be acknowledged by a few mainstream media sources The truth is going to explode right in front of the eyes of the masses Do we all get to Pat ourselves on the back for “being right” and tell all our doubting friends and family “I told you so”? Not so fast!
If someone has been lied to over and over, by newscasters, newspapers, posts on social media, and even their friends repeating the lies they’ve read, they are going to defend those lies like absolute truth. Their mind does not WANT to think differently.
So this person will continue to read the lies and repeat the lies to others. Not that they would ever intentionally lie about anything! No, they might a completely honest and good-hearted person. Remember, because they’ve believed what they’ve been told, they will fight to defend it. We all would fight to defend our beliefs!
We were raised to believe what we are told from the time we are little. “Just do as you’re told.” Don’t break the rules. Line up to come back into class when the bell rings. All good when we are little and must trust the adults to protect us.
How did masses of people believe and back obvious, absolute lies like what happened in Nazi Germany? The citizenry of Germany were good, caring, honest people! They were devastated - absolutely devastated when they learned the painful truth. The Germans I met when I lived there for a couple of years back in the 1970s were a very proud people. They were bright people. Thirty years after the war, they were still deeply hurt by what had happened in their country and what so many were tricked into believing.
There it is. Painful truth. When you’ve believed everything you’ve been told, passed it on, and even defended it; it is extremely painful to have to admit to yourself you were duped. No one, absolutely no one wants to be duped or tricked. No one wants to have to admit to themselves they’ve passed along lies. Dangerous lies.
We will in all honesty and candor admit our own foolish errors to others. Often one will laugh and say, “and then I dumped the coffee grounds right into the dishwasher!”
However, admitting a difficult truth to ourself is emotionally devastating.
We talk about “red pilling others.” We talk about how hard it is that we are shunned by family and friends for what we believe because it doesn’t line up with what they believe. We can’t understand how they can be so “dense” or so “hard hearted.” It’s because confronting the fact that they may have bought into lies and even unintentionally spread lies is a terrible feeling. Confronting the fact that they allowed themselves to be duped is a most emotionally painful and embarrassing thing to face.
If you are going to “red pill” a beloved friend, you don’t want to cram it in their face. That’s cruelty. You have to approach sharing something you see differently in a way that they do not have to feel “stupid” or embarrassed about not seeing it your way. Don’t ever try to score points against the other person. Don’t try to make yourself appear smarter or more noble in your view.
We define ourselves as patriots. We even refer to ourselves as Patriots. But you do not want to confront the reality of what friends and family believe with “I’m a Patriot!” or “the Patriots are in charge.” When you do, you are implying that they are not patriotic or care about the US. That’s not true. They are just as American. Even worse, because of the liars they’ve been believing, they have been unwittingly influenced to not openly demonstrate that patriotism. Only those deranged, deplorable Trumpers fly the American flag. Right?
Give them space to be patriotic. Give them space to know they are great Americans. Give them space to know they are intelligent human beings. Give them a lot of safe space to see they might have believed something that wasn’t true without excruciating embarrassment or being made to feel foolish.
These are our brothers and sisters. We know they are good people. We love them. It is going to be painful as each bit of truth is revealed.
@JoannCoach on Telegram and TruthSocial
It's good to step back a bit, and keep in mind how others have been duped, and how they react to those with differing views. This is good advice for us dealing with close family or friends, thanks.